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This episode streamed live on ⁠⁠YouTube⁠ ⁠and ⁠⁠X⁠⁠ on April 7, 2026. Where Are All the Women streams (almost) every Tuesday! Join us in the live chat on ⁠⁠YouTube!

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My belief is that Instagram is on its way out. Following in Facebook’s footsteps, which went the way of the dodo many years ago, Instagram’s algorithm has become both too sensitive and too full of crap I never want to look at. That said, I continue to use my private account to stay in touch with friends and post photos of my dog and my karaoke songs in my stories (you’re welcome), and use my public account for work.

When I open the app, I rarely see anything I’d like to look at, but rather see endless posts about avoidant men and cakes. I suppose this must be the information my brain provided the algorithm with, in terms of my interests, but I really don’t need to see 20 posts a day about why I need to cut this man loose because he’ll keep me anxious and miserable for all eternity just so he can feel in control, nor do I need to look at videos of cakes I am not eating.

Instagram has always been a feminized activity. Women like to post selfies in order to feel validated as attractive, whether or not they are, and also because women like astrology, a thing Instagram is rife with. (To be fair, I do enjoy a good moon post, telling me about how I’ve finally learned all my lessons and am now ready for my new chapter.) Men, on the other hand: what are you doing here?

The Discourse from the Manosphere tells us that all women are whores, with body counts in the unacceptable-for-marriage-to-a-17-year-old-gamer range, who really only want your money, anyway. The truth is that most women are not gold digging whores, though you wouldn’t know it from looking at your feed (men).

That’s right! You, men, have created a nightmare for yourselves. You created an algorithm full of whores, who feed your porn addictions, and now you believe this is reality. You flooded your feed with thots, then complained that all women do is thot themselves.

It’s wild to me how many Manosphere men will insist that women are allergic to accountability when, um, well, ahem….

An easy way to develop a more positive and realistic view of women would be to get off the apps, get off the porn, and get out into the real and regular world. And while I would offer this advice to anyone, it is men in particular who leave me wondering, what are you doing on Instagram, anyway?

Seriously? What kind of respectable, masculine man (who isn’t a podcaster) is on Instagram, scrolling through his feed or (god forbid) posting photos (god forbid) of himself?

It’s bad enough when women post their stupid faces on the internet, as if we don’t all read it as a desperate plea for attention from some fucktard who’s liking a bunch of other chicks’ butt photos at the same time, but what are you doing putting your face on the internet? What are you, a full adult, doing liking posts on the internet? Are you going to post something on your feed? Stop.

I will allow a dog story. Maybe a caught fish story. I guess. If it’s a really big fish. I don’t even know about that. Does the fish need to be on the internet? I’ll admit I like surfing videos. I will allow you to promote your work or business or a product you are selling. But if you are just you—a lone man with an Instagram account, without a clear purpose—I think your time has come. I think it’s time to choose dignity and delete that app. We all know you’re just using it to hook up with women and look at porn. In which case, I would like you to know that everyone knows and thinks you are embarrassing.

You’re welcome and Godspeed!

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I couldn’t figure out why, suddenly, there were endless men in my mentions on X suggesting I was only a 7 instead of an 8 or 9 (11/10 personality tho), despite my having never offered myself a numeric evaluation. Why, when I suggested men quit using porn, did dozens of accounts appear, telling me “Only if women quit social media!” Why were so many men apparently obsessed with a book no normal woman had ever heard of—never mind read—called, Morning Glory Milking Farm. Why, every time I posted about men and women’s relations and dating, was the response something about “high body count”?

I have been very online for a very long time now, as an internet writer and podcaster from the early days, way back in 2010. I’ve been writing and talking about men, women, sex, and relationships (among other things) for many years now, and only recently was I being inundated with weird assessments of people’s attractiveness based on a scale of 1-10 and being told that women were all gold digging whores only interested in “Chads.” At what point had men’s porn consumption become comparable to niche romance novels and tweeting? Why were men suddenly pretending “body count” was a widely used term or concern? Stop trying to make fetch happen, Gretchen! It's not going to happen!

None of this seemed logical to me, nor was it something I’d encountered out in the real world. Where was this all coming from?

Well, it turns out there is something called the “manosphere,” and the streamer-leaders of this sphere are foisting their deluded worldview onto teenage boys, who are encouraged to spew their newly acquired language and delusions across the internet, into any and every conversation, regardless of relevance.

In real life, of course, no one talks about other people in terms of numeric value. No one asks the people they are dating or sleeping with what their “body count” is. Most women are not gold digging whores who only seek to date rich men who look like the college quarterback. All women on social media are not prostitutes and no one is reading a book called Morning Glory Milking Farm.

The boys and young men who follow streamers like those featured in Louis Theroux’s new documentary, Inside the Manosphere, though, wouldn’t know that. Because they don’t go out into the real world. They don’t know any real women. They don’t have partners. I don’t even know if they have any male friends in real life. They grew up online, mainlining porn and clips from men named “HStikkytokky” (how does one refer to themselves as such and also take themselves seriously?)

These streamers surround themselves with pornstars, convincing their followers that this is a sign of success, while simultaneously telling their young fans that these women deserve no respect on account of their “high body count” and whoredom. They insist money and a collection of very stupid women with very low self-esteem are the primary things that make men real men instead of soyboys. (That, and having big muscles and very tight pants.)

The HStikkytokkys and Justin Wallers and Myron Gaines’ of the world, though, don’t actually seem very manly to me. They seem like gay little boys obsessed with their appearances. They have no useful skills to offer, like hunting or fishing or wood chopping or house building. They have nothing useful to offer at all, in fact. They apparently spend all their time online, live streaming for other little boys who also have nothing of value to offer the world.

To be clear, this is not a dig at men and boys on the whole. Nor is the documentary. This is purely a dig at the the soulless grifters who saw there was a group of vulnerable, unhappy, naive boys ripe for the picking—with no real world knowledge or wisdom to prevent them from believing any lie sent their way. These boys clearly are lacking in good male role models and real world relationships that could offer a healthy, normal vision of either women or men. They are also online all day and night—the perfect targets for this messaging.

It is sad, really, more than it is scary.

The fact these boys and young men believe it is impossible for anyone over 30 to be attractive or to find love and happiness was sad, as was their view of relationships as purely transactional. This was nothing near my experience, either as a twenty something or a forty something. Believe it or not, people continue to find one another attractive all the fucking time. Believe it or not, I get more attention at this age than I did at 25, from men of all ages and levels of hotness. Believe it or not, poor men who work in bars who are not six feet tall get laid all the time. Old people get married. Ugly people get boyfriends. Normies have sex with each other. People who aren’t millionaires are happy. Men still approach women in public. Sometimes they are rejected. Sometimes they are not. No one is as superficial as the men of internet land claim or believe. Men like personalities and vibes as well as boobs. Women like men with charisma and a sense of humour even if they don’t have a yacht.

The fact these boys and young men don’t understand that attraction exists well beyond the confines of the one-dimensional “hotness” they see on social media is sad. The fact they aren’t out in the real world meeting girls and having crushes and maybe even falling in love is depressing. And these “manosphere” streamers are keeping them there, glued to their phones, convincing them they are helping them succeed while doing everything in their power to ensure they fail.

Because what else defines success in life but happiness and fulfillment? Feeling like a productive member of society. Forming meaningful friendships, building community, finding love, maybe starting a family. Learning about the world. Developing useful or enjoyable skills. Creating something. Saying hello to your neighbour. Growing plants. Hugging your dog. Reading a book. Eating nice food. Having wine and chats with friends. Singing. Dancing. Kissing. Laughing. Parties. Instead, these guys were confined to their screens, learning to despise and resent the opposite sex, based on myths funneled to them by insecure men trying to look cool for a bunch of boys on the internet by posing next to rented Lamborghinis and paid-for women.

It’s a sad life sold to sad boys who don’t know any better.

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I speak with Julie about Amsterdam’s legal sex trade and the truth about the so-called “happy hooker.”

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Bryan Torresdey is a Mexican American comedian, creator of Migrants, founder of LOLtino, and host of the LOLtino podcast. His series, Migrants, mocks the well-meaning but very misguided American liberals one might find in a place like Brooklyn. His comedy pokes fun at politics surrounding immigration, Latino culture, white liberals, the right, the woke, and more.

I spoke with Bryan recently about comedy, Mexican culture, racism, immigration, ICE protests, and more!

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The internet was in full panic mode yesterday, freaking out about the situation in Mexico. Unfortunately I have been driving myself mad trying to calm people down and correct misinformation, which is probably a purposeless effort when we are dealing with people who love internet hysterics.

I will never understand the inclination to panic. It’s unhelpful in almost every regard. But particularly if you are panicking about a thing you don’t understand, have no real information about, and are unaffected by. Which was… almost everyone on my X feed and in my mentions yesterday.

Without going into too much detail, because I don’t feel it’s my place, but do wish for people to calm the fuck down and stop listening to a bunch of grifters and people who love hyperbole, but who have no idea what they’re talking about, I will explain some basic things:

1. These things happen in Mexico sometimes. It is a reality. Some vehicles got burned. Some Oxxos. No civilians were targeted.

2. Things have calmed down, are under control, and are mostly back to normal, albeit not all stores and restaurants are open again yet. I suspect they will be operating as normal again tomorrow. Yes, flights were delayed, this situation will also normalize very soon. Sorry you are stuck are your resort for an extra day or two. You will be fine.

I love Mexico and I love Mexicans. I love the community I live in. Yes, there are risks when you live in this country that you should be aware of. This is a reality of life. Don’t be dumb. If you don’t wish to avoid being dumb and don’t wish to understand how things work and what to be careful of, don’t come here. Go to Florida. Or stay in your condo back in Vancouver, I don’t know. But don’t freak people out from afar based on “information” that you don’t know is true.

Risk is a part of life and you are either willing to accept some in exchange for freedom, fun, happiness, whatever, or you aren’t. For me, whatever risks there are in Mexico are far outweighed by the things I love about the culture, life, beauty, and community here. I wouldn’t trade that for a false sense of safety in boring-ass, authoritarian, dead-end Canada in a million years.

I am not personally invested in Canadians or Americans visiting Mexico, because my livelihood does not depend on the tourist economy, and frankly I’d be happy to never be around most of these people who visit resorts in Puerto Vallarta (PV) ever again, BUT there are many people in Mexico who do depend on the tourist economy and I feel bad that they will be hurt by all this misinformation and hyperbole.

Watching some dude in a Hawaiian shirt pretending to do hard-hitting, on-the-ground coverage of the situation in Puerto Vallarta, after having touristed there for a few days, offering a completely inaccurate representation of the situation because he thinks he can make a few bucks and position himself as a brave, independent journalist, is maddening.

If you are going to claim to be a reporter, then report. Do not state things as fact that you do not know to be fact.

This is all I will say for now, feel free to ask me any questions you like in the comments.

Viva Mexico!

Canada’s relationship to Indigenous peoples and history is a strong one—tied to funding, legislation, education, land acknowledgements, policy, and of course guilt. But is it accurate? Is what Canadians “know” about Indigenous history true? How is what we believe impacting the country and its citizens?

In this episode, I speak with Tim Thielmann, former Indigenous rights lawyer and director of a new documentary called, “Making a Killing: Reconciliation, Genocide, and Plunder in Canada.”

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