BTW the truth is that men can’t have it all either. We also do have to make choices, and there are limitations attached to those choices. You can’t make your career and freedom your top priority and also be a-responsible-father. Becoming a-responsible-father does limit your freedom — you can no longer do whatever you like, you must put someone else first (i.e. your child or children). And it's a great thing.
BTW the truth is that men can’t have it all either. We also do have to make choices, and there are limitations attached to those choices. You can’t make your career and freedom your top priority and also be a-responsible-father. Becoming a-responsible-father does limit your freedom — you can no longer do whatever you like, you must put someone else first (i.e. your child or children). And it's a great thing.
Indeed, in any discussion about reproductive, men are always the "absent referent" under patriarchy.