Anyone who is young enough to have grown up with a phone in their hand has had a spell put on them since they were toddlers. The algorithms are too good at playing with human weaknesses. So to say that men are filling their feed with whores is only partly true. I’m 43, if my internet history is a whore parade, it’s my fault. But a guy under the age of about 30 has been manipulated through his sex drive all his life. You might as well blame young women for their rising rates of depression and anxiety due to their algorithms playing at their insecurities, while you’re at it. They’re all screwed. I do agree that men should not be on Instagram, though.
I stopped posting on insta circa 2019-2020 and I occasionally try to post stuff on my business account, but usually do one post every few years and then leave in disgust.
In the time I've left it went from mildly amusing to being rife with ads and "recommendations", neither of which I care to see. It's funny how social media companies tend to ruin what they created once they try to monetize too hard.
In 2006-2007, facebook was fun, now it's painfully slow and dreadful, even if used only for marketplace.
X is the only that seems to have regained some interest, after Musk's purchase, but it's also a giant shit show with many echo chambers that do nothing but yell at each other. It is very funny though.
I love X/twitter still, but yeah the video-focused apps like tiktok/instagram just feel like garbage-harassment to me… The pivot to video focus was a bad idea imo. I wonder what the future of social media will be, considering this?? No one wants to look at AI trickery…
I think they will lose huge market shares if they don't somehow find a way to tamp down on the AI slop. It's already getting tiresome. 99% of it is just clickbait, zero value, if not outright false/misleading.
We need to check in on Insta periodically to see if you’re wise to our strategies to keep you anxious and miserable for all eternity just so we can feel in control.
Yes, most men are on Insta to 1. Look at "Soft" port (AKA, women doing things in indecent clothes that can be masturbated to), and 2. Everybody knows.
You are right about the accountability gap. Not the gap in accountability between the sexes, but in the gap of awareness of said lack of accountability. Guys who scroll Instagram for thots (The gym shots in "leggings" are a classic), and then complain about women's body counts and proud slut owning, need to be FORCED to remember:
"We" were first a slut for "You", back in the 2000s and 2010s, and you made us feel like trash, when you refused to call us, and said "Sex is no big deal" to get out of your blame in pushing us to have sex with you, early. You hounded the boys who treated us like friends, as "Gay".
So what were girls, so desperate for you to find us beautiful, going to say to you? You knew that too.
1.5 generations later, the same women (and their younger sisters), have come full circle and are "empowered" to make money from you thirsty bastards on Insta, as you jerk off to a butt you will never squeeze yourself, and give attention to a woman who isn't obligated to acknowledge it.
Women who you all deem have too high a body count to marry (because you all insisted, and each took a turn before we were even officially your "Girlfriend"), have found a way to cope with the constant rejection after sex.
Just because you haven't done it to us personally, doesn't mean you wouldn't have - you just didn't have the looks, the age, or the charm, or the money, and that bothers you. So yes, ALL MEN.
And hell, I'll own it - even though it's wrong, and I didn't become an Instagram Babe. ALL WOMEN.
Because maybe I would have, if I'd trusted just one of you, and let you dispose of me, over and over. Til I had to sell myself to buy back my self esteem.
It's not working, that much is clear. And really, it's not a solution.
Anymore than your Incel-Redpill rap is working for you.
Yeah, insta is mostly irrelevant. My feed is full of jugglers, carom masters, magicians and parkour athletes. This is my fault for having liked these things in the past. And Facebook is filled with queer clickbait: I’m done with chastising the ACLU for their treachery. What’s left? Real life, I suppose.
When I used instagram I had one male friend who would post videos of himself biking (and sometimes crashing) in heavy mountain terrain and I thought that was cool, like an adventure I’d never go on, but yea the majority of men are not doing anything interesting enough.
Funny, I have always treated women with dignity and respect. I learned how to build and remodel a house. I can grow a lot more food than I can eat. I've travelled thousands of miles in the wilderness by canoe. I have fermented probably 500 gallons of homebrew from fruit and maple sap I have gathered. I have written 5 books and a screenplay. I can identify most of the wild plants in the region and know if they have medicinal qualities. I play the guitar. I sing. I'm not ugly.
I've never been on instagram.
Guess how many women I have met gave a shit about any of that?
Can I add a huge eye roll at any adult male making tik tok/instagram videos.
Unless you're making a video showing me how to replace the headlight in my CRV (thank you, kind sir!) then you need to re-evaluate how you spend your spare time.
Anyone who is young enough to have grown up with a phone in their hand has had a spell put on them since they were toddlers. The algorithms are too good at playing with human weaknesses. So to say that men are filling their feed with whores is only partly true. I’m 43, if my internet history is a whore parade, it’s my fault. But a guy under the age of about 30 has been manipulated through his sex drive all his life. You might as well blame young women for their rising rates of depression and anxiety due to their algorithms playing at their insecurities, while you’re at it. They’re all screwed. I do agree that men should not be on Instagram, though.
Great take. Go outside and actually do cool stuff instead of watching others do the cool stuff.
I stopped posting on insta circa 2019-2020 and I occasionally try to post stuff on my business account, but usually do one post every few years and then leave in disgust.
In the time I've left it went from mildly amusing to being rife with ads and "recommendations", neither of which I care to see. It's funny how social media companies tend to ruin what they created once they try to monetize too hard.
In 2006-2007, facebook was fun, now it's painfully slow and dreadful, even if used only for marketplace.
X is the only that seems to have regained some interest, after Musk's purchase, but it's also a giant shit show with many echo chambers that do nothing but yell at each other. It is very funny though.
I love X/twitter still, but yeah the video-focused apps like tiktok/instagram just feel like garbage-harassment to me… The pivot to video focus was a bad idea imo. I wonder what the future of social media will be, considering this?? No one wants to look at AI trickery…
I think they will lose huge market shares if they don't somehow find a way to tamp down on the AI slop. It's already getting tiresome. 99% of it is just clickbait, zero value, if not outright false/misleading.
We need to check in on Insta periodically to see if you’re wise to our strategies to keep you anxious and miserable for all eternity just so we can feel in control.
Yesssssss. Now I think this is a new requirement for anybody I date:::that they don’t have an active Instagram account. ✅
Now I just need to delete mine 🙏🙌
I like your article. Why does a man post pictures of himself? I agree.
Meghan,
This was far too entertaining for my own good :D
Yes, most men are on Insta to 1. Look at "Soft" port (AKA, women doing things in indecent clothes that can be masturbated to), and 2. Everybody knows.
You are right about the accountability gap. Not the gap in accountability between the sexes, but in the gap of awareness of said lack of accountability. Guys who scroll Instagram for thots (The gym shots in "leggings" are a classic), and then complain about women's body counts and proud slut owning, need to be FORCED to remember:
"We" were first a slut for "You", back in the 2000s and 2010s, and you made us feel like trash, when you refused to call us, and said "Sex is no big deal" to get out of your blame in pushing us to have sex with you, early. You hounded the boys who treated us like friends, as "Gay".
So what were girls, so desperate for you to find us beautiful, going to say to you? You knew that too.
1.5 generations later, the same women (and their younger sisters), have come full circle and are "empowered" to make money from you thirsty bastards on Insta, as you jerk off to a butt you will never squeeze yourself, and give attention to a woman who isn't obligated to acknowledge it.
Women who you all deem have too high a body count to marry (because you all insisted, and each took a turn before we were even officially your "Girlfriend"), have found a way to cope with the constant rejection after sex.
Just because you haven't done it to us personally, doesn't mean you wouldn't have - you just didn't have the looks, the age, or the charm, or the money, and that bothers you. So yes, ALL MEN.
And hell, I'll own it - even though it's wrong, and I didn't become an Instagram Babe. ALL WOMEN.
Because maybe I would have, if I'd trusted just one of you, and let you dispose of me, over and over. Til I had to sell myself to buy back my self esteem.
It's not working, that much is clear. And really, it's not a solution.
Anymore than your Incel-Redpill rap is working for you.
Yeah, insta is mostly irrelevant. My feed is full of jugglers, carom masters, magicians and parkour athletes. This is my fault for having liked these things in the past. And Facebook is filled with queer clickbait: I’m done with chastising the ACLU for their treachery. What’s left? Real life, I suppose.
When I used instagram I had one male friend who would post videos of himself biking (and sometimes crashing) in heavy mountain terrain and I thought that was cool, like an adventure I’d never go on, but yea the majority of men are not doing anything interesting enough.
Golf, it has attracted top golf instructors giving advice, while looking to attract online clients. Tennis as well has an instructional clientele.
Funny, I have always treated women with dignity and respect. I learned how to build and remodel a house. I can grow a lot more food than I can eat. I've travelled thousands of miles in the wilderness by canoe. I have fermented probably 500 gallons of homebrew from fruit and maple sap I have gathered. I have written 5 books and a screenplay. I can identify most of the wild plants in the region and know if they have medicinal qualities. I play the guitar. I sing. I'm not ugly.
I've never been on instagram.
Guess how many women I have met gave a shit about any of that?
Can I add a huge eye roll at any adult male making tik tok/instagram videos.
Unless you're making a video showing me how to replace the headlight in my CRV (thank you, kind sir!) then you need to re-evaluate how you spend your spare time.
Get some friends, for crying out loud!