On the podcast, I speak with Gene McConnell, an ex-porn user and sex buyer whose work today focuses on helping men build healthier relationships with themselves and with women.
I was riveted listening to this interview. I think being brave enough to come on a show, admit what you were and how much work it took to get to where you are, is a whole thing. Not many people would do it. I was also so interested in his progression into the objectification of women. So interesting
At 27:30 minutes, Gene rejects the idea of the 'need' for sex within the marriage (or within a Relationship) and calls it ‘the biggest fallacy of all'. Really? Gene and Meghan are good at saying that men are not entitled to sex, which is, of course, true. But is that it?
Neither Gene nor Meghan propose any solution except the one that the man (it usually is the man) just goes without sex. Many marriages break down because of the sex: too much, not enough, or the wrong sort – as my Family Law Tutor taught me 40 years ago! It’s still true.
In my experience, just telling the man (it usually is the man) to put up with a sexless marriage of indefinite duration does not amount to a satisfactory solution. I do not know what to suggest apart from divorce. What do you think?